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Pegging the question: Why strap-ons are a brilliant way of experiencing sex

When I mentioned on social media that I was writing a feature about pegging, there was a whole heap of confusion. Lots of people couldn’t understand how anyone could get an entire article out of how you hang your laundry.

 

In case you didn’t know already, pegging – in this context, at least – refers to the act of donning a strap-on dildo in order to have penetrative sex with another person. Although there are variations on the theme, it is most commonly a woman wearing the dildo and a man on the receiving end, so I’m going to stick with the ‘woman penetrates man’ scenario for the purposes of this piece. The term ‘pegging’ is relatively recent, having only been coined in 2001 by the readers of the Savage Love sex advice column. But as a sexual act, it has existed long before that and is mentioned by the Marquis de Sade in his infamous book ‘Philosophy In The Boudoir‘, which was first published in 1795. Interestingly, I’ve always found women to be more nervous about trying pegging than men are, usually just because it’s so completely different to the role women usually play during sex.

 

 

When I mentioned on social media that I was writing a feature about pegging, there was a whole heap of confusion. Lots of people couldn’t understand how anyone could get an entire article out of how you hang your laundry.

 

In case you didn’t know already, pegging – in this context, at least – refers to the act of donning a strap-on dildo in order to have penetrative sex with another person. Although there are variations on the theme, it is most commonly a woman wearing the dildo and a man on the receiving end, so I’m going to stick with the ‘woman penetrates man’ scenario for the purposes of this piece. The term ‘pegging’ is relatively recent, having only been coined in 2001 by the readers of the Savage Love sex advice column. But as a sexual act, it has existed long before that and is mentioned by the Marquis de Sade in his infamous book ‘Philosophy In The Boudoir‘, which was first published in 1795. Interestingly, I’ve always found women to be more nervous about trying pegging than men are, usually just because it’s so completely different to the role women usually play during sex.

 

 

Anal stimulation really is far more popular among straight men than you might realise – luckily we’re all becoming far more open about the many and varied ways of having sexy fun, and men seem to have finally got to grips with the idea that playing with their butts doesn’t mean they’re gay (yes, I know being gay is not a negative thing but we all know someone who panics and looks defensive at the merest suggestion of back door fun time)

 

 

Unless you are very slim, look for a harness with long straps that give plenty of room for adjustment. I’m a UK size 16 and the best I’ve found so far is the Elite Universal Harness from Fetish Fantasy – it’s heavy duty, comfortable to wear and really will fit just about anyone. You’re not restricted to harnesses – many manufacturers now produce underwear that includes an O-ring (the part that holds the dildo), such as these from Packer Gear. You can even get ‘strapless strap-ons’ such as this beauty from Swan, where one end is held internally and the other works as a standard dildo. Or try the rather aptly named ‘Bend Over Boyfriend‘ from Bondara – the reviews certainly make for interesting reading.

 

 

If you decide to stick with the traditional strap-on, there really is an endless choice of dildos, so shop around – and talk to your partner first. If you’re indulging with someone who’s done this kind of thing before then they’ll already know what they like, so listen to them. You might well find they already own the necessary kit – plenty of people do, even if they don’t discuss it publicly. If you’re both beginners, start small – you can always work your way up later when you’re both more confident. Love Honey sell a slimline dildo that is small enough to not be intimidating. Stock up on lube, because you are going to need it. Lots of it. There is no such thing as too much lube when you’re planning to push a dildo into an orifice that has no self-lubrication whatsoever. And put a towel or old sheet down, just in case.

 

When I mentioned on social media that I was writing a feature about pegging, there was a whole heap of confusion. Lots of people couldn’t understand how anyone could get an entire article out of how you hang your laundry.

 

In case you didn’t know already, pegging – in this context, at least – refers to the act of donning a strap-on dildo in order to have penetrative sex with another person. Although there are variations on the theme, it is most commonly a woman wearing the dildo and a man on the receiving end, so I’m going to stick with the ‘woman penetrates man’ scenario for the purposes of this piece. The term ‘pegging’ is relatively recent, having only been coined in 2001 by the readers of the Savage Love sex advice column. But as a sexual act, it has existed long before that and is mentioned by the Marquis de Sade in his infamous book ‘Philosophy In The Boudoir‘, which was first published in 1795. Interestingly, I’ve always found women to be more nervous about trying pegging than men are, usually just because it’s so completely different to the role women usually play during sex.

 

 

Anal stimulation really is far more popular among straight men than you might realise – luckily we’re all becoming far more open about the many and varied ways of having sexy fun, and men seem to have finally got to grips with the idea that playing with their butts doesn’t mean they’re gay (yes, I know being gay is not a negative thing but we all know someone who panics and looks defensive at the merest suggestion of back door fun time)

 

 

Unless you are very slim, look for a harness with long straps that give plenty of room for adjustment. I’m a UK size 16 and the best I’ve found so far is the Elite Universal Harness from Fetish Fantasy – it’s heavy duty, comfortable to wear and really will fit just about anyone. You’re not restricted to harnesses – many manufacturers now produce underwear that includes an O-ring (the part that holds the dildo), such as these from Packer Gear. You can even get ‘strapless strap-ons’ such as this beauty from Swan, where one end is held internally and the other works as a standard dildo. Or try the rather aptly named ‘Bend Over Boyfriend‘ from Bondara – the reviews certainly make for interesting reading.

 

When I mentioned on social media that I was writing a feature about pegging, there was a whole heap of confusion. Lots of people couldn’t understand how anyone could get an entire article out of how you hang your laundry.

 

In case you didn’t know already, pegging – in this context, at least – refers to the act of donning a strap-on dildo in order to have penetrative sex with another person. Although there are variations on the theme, it is most commonly a woman wearing the dildo and a man on the receiving end, so I’m going to stick with the ‘woman penetrates man’ scenario for the purposes of this piece. The term ‘pegging’ is relatively recent, having only been coined in 2001 by the readers of the Savage Love sex advice column. But as a sexual act, it has existed long before that and is mentioned by the Marquis de Sade in his infamous book ‘Philosophy In The Boudoir‘, which was first published in 1795. Interestingly, I’ve always found women to be more nervous about trying pegging than men are, usually just because it’s so completely different to the role women usually play during sex.

 

 

Anal stimulation really is far more popular among straight men than you might realise – luckily we’re all becoming far more open about the many and varied ways of having sexy fun, and men seem to have finally got to grips with the idea that playing with their butts doesn’t mean they’re gay (yes, I know being gay is not a negative thing but we all know someone who panics and looks defensive at the merest suggestion of back door fun time)

 

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